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Thursday, May 27, 2010

The Myth of Education and Training

How did education and training become a rescue formula for failed social and economic policies? Each time there is an economic downturn politicians and con artists dust of their big mega phone from their old garages to trump the need for more education and training. This does not mean they believe in the education of little Lisa or big Joe. It just means there is more money to be made by influencing public sentiment about the need for education.

Politicians understand high unemployment is the result of many factors; but the core reason remains greed and mismanagement of resources. Higher middle income and working class taxes and little or no corporate tax is one of the sources of higher unemployment. Corporations export jobs in search of low wages and higher incomes. Sure enough, when they export jobs, they pay no social security tax, avoid employee health insurance, and avoid employee benefits such as vacations and unemployment compensation. Why anyone would will go against such free labor and higher income. This is the main reason why there will be no significant change in the job market.

Nevertheless, the politicians and the pundits would like us to believe that we need more education and skill that may never be realized in employment for the unemployed. Very few challenges exist for such claims and no one dares to question the importance of education and training. Therefore, local governments and communities accept the sermon that education and training will bring full employment and reduce poverty. Opportunist educational and training companies pop up in every corner. These companies grab government grants and public funds claiming to train and teach unemployed people for jobs. Unfortunately, for people who joined these institutions seeking better job and better life for themselves they end up accumulating heavy debts through private lenders.

Public and vocational schools have been training students for the type of jobs industry want them to perform. In many cases, these schools had been successful in creating a labor force that is dependable in following orders and finishing jobs with little instruction. The problem now is that these low end and repetitive jobs are being replaced by automation at the expense of human labor. It is impractical to assume that there will be high skilled jobs for the many that are trained for the alleged new economy while the new economy requires few operators to produce what could have been the duty of many workers.


Politicians, businesses and pundits understand these problems, but they assume these are the problems of tomorrow and let tomorrow take of these problems. Employers will invest their resources only if they find the labor market is competitive to those countries where jobs are exported. The increased communications technology allow businesses to operate anywhere in the world with efficiency.

Education and learning are essential parts of development and human growth. Acquiring education and training should not be based on the need to acquire more money. The current premises of education and training for better jobs are designed to cover major economical and social cracks in our society. For now, many people who hoped to land a job after sinking in debts will find themselves in big disappointment. Many of us who are familiar with the real world knows education and training speeches are feel good rhetoric and does not solve the immediate problem.

Long time unemployment shakes the foundation of a person’s value and meaning in relation to society. People faced with dwindling opportunities risk losing faith in the system. As time goes on, downward growth to homelessness accompanied with personal and emotional problems will replace hope and security. Eventually, the homeless and the mentally unstable created by long time unemployment will join the underclass poor that will be completely ignored and chastised by the social and political elites. They will be labeled as "lazy, drug addict, or alcoholics", that are burdens of society.

The Politicians and the free marketers that preach education and training as the solution for our problem knows that education and training takes a long time to measure it success. On the other hand, they know how the dark side of the system functions. The dark side of the system displaces people to the point where they no longer have a voice in the system. Homeless people do not have address, which means they cannot vote. Politicians will not listen to people who will not vote. Homeless people lack basic communication tools like telephone and mail address, therefore they become invisible to society. To the politicians and social elites, poverty is the preferred method to move a sizable portion of society into a voiceless black hole. That is the frame of "Free Market" and the premises of “people are unemployed, because they are stupid" therefore they need education and training to get jobs they have been doing all their lives.

Saturday, May 22, 2010

What is for dinner tonight? BP or Exxon Tuna?

Crude Marinated Fish, Courtesy of Big Oil.


It is not difficult to see a fish or a bird covered with crude and struggling to escape. Most will die and some may never have the same friendly environment to continue their species in the polluted waters. So much had been said about global warming from consumption of natural resources, primarily petroleum products that degrades the environment to household chemicals. Our Modern industrial system depends on fossil fuel energy to maintain economic growth at the expense of depleting life supporting oxygen and increasing life threatening gas. Although, there will always be some deniers of human contribution to negative environmental changes, the current temperature increase, Frequent storm and depletion of life in the sea are true outcomes of our action. Those who are responsible for such actions continue to deny, cover, drill and spill chemicals on land and sea. From Alaska to Louisiana, we see the destruction of the ecosystem, the suffering of people and the loss of commercial and consumer food. While the loss of food may seem insignificant at its current stage, loss of oxygen and increase of temperature to the overall global warming is devastating. How much proof do we need before we accept the truth in front of us?

Just a few days ago, the prized winner of the tea party movement from Kentucky declared the president of the United States as unpatriotic for asking BP to stop the oil flow. Bp had boasted in the past about their capability to stop and control any oil related accident in the ocean. In fact, BP claims as the concerned environmentalist that takes care of business while preserving the environment. Most of us know this was just propaganda to collect free taxpayers money every year and marketing in their quest to drill with no restrictions. BP had managed to use its lobbying power and influence to deny access to valid information how much oil is flowing into the sea and perhaps into land. It is difficult to know how much is flowing per day since independent scientists and observers are not allowed to check the real amount. However, different observers claim it can reach anywhere between 200000 gallons to over 4 million gallons of crude oil a day.

At the mean time, many thousands who depend on fishing are out of work and may not have the ability to fish in the spill area in the future. At the current rate of oil spill and destruction, it is uncertain seafood will be restored in the area for a long time.

Monday, May 10, 2010

Cash Is the New Threat While Plastic Is the Cancer In Your Purse.

Do you remember the saying “Don’t leave home without it”. Well, those days are gone for good. It is perfectly fine to leave home without your credit or debit card.


Recently I stopped by the local store to get a few items to get me by for a day or so. I picked up some items and took them into one of the cash registers with few customers waiting on the line. The cashier completed scanning the customer’s item in front of me and I assume hit the total button on the register. All of a sudden, the cash register starts playing a sound that we normally hear from winning a lottery. The customer behind me and I immediately assumed the person just hit a jock pot for some sort of store prize. We were wrong. The cashier immediately turned into the customer and told him that he is approved for a Master Card, and continues to ask him if he wanted to apply for it. The customer laughed and replied by saying “you guys never quit to keep us in debt”. I was a little puzzled by the whole drama for the few minutes I stand there and watch what was going on. I decided to ask the cashier how the customer in front of me managed to get the happy musical sound as if he was wining a prize. The cashier replied by saying that it is the computer that recognized the customer that he is a cash customer. The information came from the store card he scanned. The little store card that we use to get a few cents off from our purchase is a tool that collects data about our shopping behavior, what type of items we purchase, and whether we use plastic or cash. Many stores use those cards to attract customers. Safeway, fry’s smart final, staples and others provide their own cards.

Store membership cards are good, customers get discounts on some items, but what I did not understand is that why stores or merchants push their customers to use credit or debit cards. Merchants pay fee to card issuers per purchase. Some issuers charge merchants a fixed fee and other charge a predetermined percentage per transaction. Merchants benefit from customers using cash and lose money when customer’s use plastics. It is not merchants want to pay transaction expenses by pushing credit cards but it is because of the influence of card issuers like big banks, credit card companies such as Visa, MasterCard, and Amex had significant power and influence on merchants. Therefore, merchants have no choice but to follow the orders of big banks and credit card companies’ desire.

Have you watched lately the TV news, using cash to buy airline ticket can land you in a terrorist suspect list. The mighty dollar is now part of a profiling criteria to identify who is a terrorist or not. This poor profiling of using cash as a terrorist shows how far being banks and credit card companies with their junior associates called credit reporting companies gang up against consumers to suck part of every dollar consumed.

The credit system is setup to transfer wealth from consumers to the few big financial institutions constantly while maintaining a high level of debt on consumers. Of course, they claim use of card or credit increase the overall economy. It is true the use of plastic facilitates business and contributes to the growth of economy. At the same time, it also contributes to increased economic inequality leading to the status where the rich get richer and the majority of the people grow poorer.

According to Moody's economy.com, the study on use of card found that, on average, increasing card usage by just 1 percent translates to a 0.024 percent increase in GDP. This equates to $15 billion in additional GDP globally for every 1 percent increase. The article continued by saying that card usage contributed by 270 billion to US economy and 1.1 trillion dollar to the world economy from 2003 to 2008.

Let us see how this economic growth translates to those companies who benefits for consumers higher debt.

Credit Card Companies:

As of May 6, 2010, the market capitalization of Visa was 69.6 billion.

Master Card had a market capitalization of 30 billion dollars.

American Express had a market capitalization of 50.92 Billion dollars

Big Banks:

As of may 6, 2010, Bank of America had a market capitalization of 163.32 Billion dollars

JP Morgan Chase had a market capitalization of 162.24 Billion dollars

Wells Fargo had a market capitalization of 162.31 Billion

Citigroup had a market capitalization of 115.63 Billion

Credit reporting companies

Equifax

Experian

TransUnion

Credit Reporting Companies are private companies and they do not list their market value, but one can assume they share substantial amount of consumer’s money through fees and charges each time a consumer or a company wants personal data from consumers.

It is not too difficult to realize how a web of financial institutions controls our lives through a system that is designed to keep the public under water and dependent economically. These companies decide who is worth being a person in getting their service. They write the rules how much interest we have to pay, who they can keep as a customer or for that matter that can have a job. Companies had begun acquiring credit report information before they even consider candidates for a job. Imagine, after the great recession of 2008, and 2009, very few people will meet their sleazy credit scores. Can we afford to continue this losing route? No law or regulation will be significant enough to change his or her way of doing business. These financial companies have all the tools they want to continue business as usual. They control the representatives, they control the communication apparatus, and they have the lobbying power to influence political and public outcomes. However, there is one thing they are scared of, that is consumers cutting up credit cards and using cash for transactions. If people use cash, they can only spend based on how much they have. On the other hand, if people use plastics, they will spend not only on what they plan but also on what they see now. When customers spend emotionally, they spend more than they have and in turn more money for the credit card issuers with a higher interest and associated fees income. If customers use cash for any transaction that means big banks will generate less money from fees and interest. That means credit card companies such Visa and MasterCard generate less revenue from issuing the cards. That means less money for credit reporting companies and debt collectors, financial advisors.

I do not expect many people will give up their addiction of plastics but for those who want to be free of financial slavery the outcome is very sweet.



Be the first and reclaim your true independence.

If we are serious about changing our way, cut up and throw those cards into recycling bins.

Sunday, May 9, 2010

The Scene of the 2008 Great Recession

Empty building, empty parking lots and many for sale signs.

We hope this will never happen again.

All Things the Eye Can See:

All Things the Eye Can See: The Scene of Recession That Left Buildings and Fences Standing#links

Sunday, April 25, 2010

The Lost Dreams

The Lost Dreams
We have seen small towns away from big cities fade away. It could be loss of population, or the town is away from main interstate highway or nature played a role in bringing the towns ruin. This time however, it is not the small towns and distant places that are degrading. Like many small towns, hopes and dreams are lost in the big cities. What we saw in small towns are being felt in cities all over America. Jobs are disappearing, homes are vacant and hopes are lost. Suddenly, it came a time where the price of housing stops going up and the same lenders devalued the value of the houses thereby decreasing the credit line of mortgage owners drastically forcing people to pay their debts from other means. Incomes from jobs could not support a debt payment that was meant to be taken care of by speculative real-estate market. Too much debt, little income and speculation forced people to bankruptcy. The result is what we see now; empty parking lots, for sale signs, and out of business buildings. Finally, our innocent belief of business as usual is challenged, like an orphan we felt abandoned by the system. We are questioning everything as well as soul searching for better tomorrow.

Success in American life did not need a secret. All one have to do was listening and following the proven knowledge to participate in the American dream. The dream is based on a simple formula of “a job, credit line, and a house". A house is a residence, investment and a guarantee of economic security. In the last few years however, the meaning of a house turned upside down. It became a liability rather than an asset. It lost its primary meaning of security and residence. The house literally became a burden instead of a pride. Signs that say bank owned or foreclosed became the new identity of houses. In some areas, people’s belongings including children’s toys are thrown out of the door while the homeowners are sleeping. People’s faith is shattered; trust in the system is gone (Pearson, 1991, p.78). The same thing is happening in the larger real estate area. They may not have signs of foreclosure on the side of the door but they had everything else that is a sign of deterioration. Businesses had gone bankrupt, or moved somewhere. Customers are scarce, and parking lots are empty. The place once it used to be full of life is now vacant. What had happened?

The answer is not that complex. It is simple. People never owned their houses until it is completely paid. Houses are sold on credit to be paid off over several decades with one goal in mind for the lender, higher income in the form of interest. The total interest payment usually ends up more than the principal does at the end of the term. It is designed not to be paid off instantly. Marketers and bankers made sure the concept of owing house is an instant profit or sometimes double the price of the house within a few years. Lenders sold hope. Customers borrowed money against their mortgage. It was their ATM (Money Central).Twenty or thirty years of payment on a mortgage were not that bad. However, lenders were not satisfied with that. They wanted more. They start packaging old loans into securities where they can sell it piece by piece. People are left with mortgage debts for the house they lost. We cannot continue any longer business as usual (Campbell, 2008, P.67) threshold.

The house that was once a residence as well as an investment to the owner becomes an investment instrument where it can be sold and traded on the market without the knowledge of the owner. That is why we see empty parking lots, empty gas stations, and empty office buildings everywhere.







Reference:



Campbell, Joseph. (2008),The Hero With a Thousand Faces. Bollingen series XVII. 3rd ed.



Novata: New World Library.

Money central. (2007, February 19). The housing ATM rot is just the beginning. Retrieved, November, 14, 2009, from

http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/Investing/ContrarianChronicles/TheHousingATMRotIsJustTheBeginning.aspx



Pearson, Carol S. (1991), Awakening the Heroes Within:

Twelve Archetypes to Help Us Find Ourselves and Transform our World.

San Francisco: Harper San Francisco.

Friday, April 23, 2010

Hell No, You Did Not Pay Back Your Debt

In many parts of the world, economic problem is not new. In America, however, it is a different story. We had experienced short and brief unemployment and economic slowdown for decades. This time the recession is deep and unemployment number is huge and long. Recently, our economic foundation had shifted dramatically from producing goods to importing goods, from manufacturing to servicing, from expanding jobs to outsourcing jobs. This shift builds the financial economy that values borrowing and debt very high and discourages economic independency and sustainable living. The result is what we start to see now. Lost jobs are not coming back, under the current system jobs do not create huge profit for companies compared to selling and buying imported high tech junk. The problems we face now are going to stay here for some time.
For many of us, this is the first time to notice such a magnitude of job loss, economic problems relating to national financial system and long time unemployment affecting so many people in America. However the majority of world population experience economic problems daily. Economic problem is usually a problem of third world countries. The most broadcasted and announced human sufferings are those that include starvation of millions of people due to drought and natural disasters in sub-Sahara Africa. Thanks to the heroes who spent their money and time to bring attention to the generous people of the world particularly American people. Many people were able to eat and drink the help they received.
However, this time the economic problem is different from the economic problem we know. This time it is a problem not caused by drought, flood or civil war, but a problem created by sophisticated merchants. These globalized casino experts transferred real and non-real values of who we are into commodity speculation. Companies and banks find it profitable to trade and issue debt in the form of credit than to manufacture or produce products. In the process, as part of this wild scheme they turned people’s houses into an ATM machine, leaving many people out of their houses, jobs and pushing the country into recession. The damage to the economy and the people is so great most people have to seek from their friends and relatives. Once again, when brothers and sisters are out of work, out of many, the relatives open their hands and their hearts to help those who are in need. Those who lost their house are welcomed by the relatives to shelter with them, to eat with them, and to share whatever they have with them. These heroes of the recession sacrificed comfort and privacy for the benefit of others, while the “too big too care” gangsters reward themselves with billions of taxpayer dollars.
They claim they are paying the taxpayer debt in full. No, you did not. Because of your actions and greed, millions have lost their jobs, their houses, and their retirement’s worth in trillions. These financial gangsters are not willing to admit their mistakes or learn from their mistakes. We do not expect them to change their way of doing business. They are against any kind of change that may threaten their standing in the society. Preserving and maintaining their status at any cost is their priority. They have powerful tools a communication apparatus that promotes lies, deception, as well as promote anarchy and lawlessness against individuals and organizations they disagree with. People behind these ugly tactics are not stupid, they are smart, but for them, no matter how ugly the means to achieve their goal is, it is justified by the outcome they pursue.
Yes, these peoples are powerful but we should not feel hopeless. We know in the past when we face great problems, people of all kind rises to the challenge. Some even pay the ultimate price for the good of their fellow man. They understood the hills to climb, the aches they have to feel, the sweats their body has to release for each step of gain or success towards improving humanity.
They are smart, but they use their insight to add a little light to those with deem of hope, they are courageous but they do not use their courage to attack instead to protect others.
They are harassed, insulted, called out names, attacked, and sometimes killed. They know all these things will happen to them but they do not try to back off from what they believed for a second. Men and women such as Mahatma Gandhi, Rosa Parks, and Martin Luther King, Jr., did left us something good we cherish everyday at their expense. Many ordinary people who did not have super human power, or who are not prophets chose peace instead of violence, but suffered many losses. These heroes were ambushed in dark alleys and harassed in open fields. For every Gandhi or King, there are many thousands we do not know who gave up their lives for the good of all.
The financial gangsters may try every means available to them, including foreclosing houses, denying credits, bankrupting jobs, sometimes even inciting violence in their twenty-four hour cable news and wage disinformation tactics just to keep us in debt. That is not going to happen. We learn from our mistakes. We believe in working and earning a living. We control our finances. We discuss our differences peacefully with civility. We vote for our interest and follow ideals that bring us peace and unity. Mr. Gangster, we will not fail for your small print tactics again. It is shameful and dishonest for you to claim that you paid your debt. Let me ask you financial gangsters a simple question. Did you pay the millions of homeowners who are under water? Did you pay millions of people who lost their job because of your credit default swaps? Did you spend any time in prison for your crimes against the people?
The answer is “Hell No, You Did Not Pay Your Debt".

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Technology Gone Crazy with the Letter "I"

A technology that changed little over time.
There have been patches of changes disguised as new technology since the integration of core products to bring what we call Technology.
•Hardware
•Software
•Processors
The landscape of computing has changed very little. The hope of groundbreaking innovation and transformation by small companies is not possible due to the bigger companies such as IBM, Microsoft, and Intel’s Market domination.
Currently the Intel inside and AMD processors provide the basic frames of computing with little substantial change but with much marketing for over a decade.
Microsoft that dominates the personal computing software market dumps decade old programs by changing a few internals of application and visual colors based on the same graphical interface since the windows 3.1 going through periodic calendars on its office products.
Another technology leader Apple has gone crazy with the letter "I" in announcing new products. Imac,Ipod, Iphone, now IPAD .
I wonder what the next "I...something” will be and I wonder what the next technological hype in the “I “world will be?
Could it be another glorified telephone or calculator named “Itouch”?, oh well I prefer to wait and see. For now "Igaveup.

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Saturday, April 17, 2010

The Stand



It is US Against Them
Sometimes I wonder where orphans end up. Is there statistics that tell us how many of them got education, how many of them got jobs and create a family with children and how many of them end up in jail? We know that it is possible that orphan behavior could be overcame and replaced with sense of belonging within friends and society. How about the real orphans that never gets the chance to get out of the stage of downward growth? May be these are the real orphans that the newspapers, radio shows, and the TV shows present them as bottom of society, the eyesore of the community. may be these are the real orphans where well to do parents and families advise their children to stay away from people with different values than their own. The values that may never be fulfilled by the children who know no belonging to anyone except themselves. The real orphans could never realize values that are based on success, winning and consumption.
For the real orphans, they knew only transient life from one caseworker to another, from one foster parent to another and the life of in and out of city jails. These are the gangs of yesterdays, today’s, and tomorrow’s where society spends resources to house them in-group homes as children and in prisons when they are adults. For the real orphans it always had been us against them.
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Orphans in the Workplace

In today’s workplace, we find changes everywhere. It is normal to move around employees, desks, take down the old buzzword slogans, notices from the wall, and replaces it with the new one. Company logos, organizational flow charts, mission statements, values are everywhere. In contrast to these wall decorations of company value messages, there are also that tells the truth beneath the surface. These include memos with the content that says, “Few people are needed to work today, and or we need volunteers to take the time off or we will select people to let them go home”. Other memos will follow with messages such as “no over time message or memos with modified health insurance where you may only qualify for generic drugs or employees cover the cost of brand medications”. I saw both messages, messages that foster belonging from the value and mission statement of the company and avoiding responsibility from email and daily memos of the company. I see a very weak and sometimes non-existent connection between the conflicting messages of the wall and employees. The relationship between employees and the company, the relationship between the message and employees, and the relationship between teams are not real. There is a cloud of mistrust and suspicion. Long time employees are the new temporary workers with no obligation to loyalty. The loyalty and goodwill that had been developed over many years between employees and companies are no longer a factor. We are all lost and abandoned in the workplace. In the eyes of the companies, we are all costs with no recycling value but only to be disposed like outdated machines. It is reaching to the point where the character of an orphan is the everyday norm of the work place.

Orphans of Society

When we hear of the word orphan it is usually understood a child with no parents to take care of the child. However, there are different type orphans. Orphans with parents alive but absent in taking care of their children physically or emotionally. There is also another area where unfavorable environment contributes in developing behavioral problems in children that are similar to that of orphans. So many children grew up in an environment where school system and the type of education prepare them to be nonfunctional as an adult. Poor neighborhood schools are poorly funded lack of teaching materials, poor parents with little care for their children and plenty of criminal activity in the neighborhood.
Alcohol and drug is within reach of poor children and making them likely alcoholics and addicts. Some of the poor children may graduate high school but very few are equipped to hold a job. Most girls are exposed to unsafe sex, and as a result, under age pregnancy is common as well as drug and alcohol consumption. The majority of children from poor neighborhood end up in prisons.
They are orphans of society.

AIDS

AIDS is a primary cause of being an orphanage in our times.
AIDS impact is greater in third world countries than developed countries. Millions of children lost their parents in Africa because of AIDS. Prevention and treatment of the HIV virus had been coordinated by states and international organizations. However, the effort to contain the disease is very expensive and unaffordable to most nations. The availability of medicine to combat the disease is dependent largely on the availability of donations and charities.
These orphans like most children who lost their parents are lost from the very beginning. Some children may die with the same disease that killed their parents; some may die from starvation or crime before they reach their teenage years. The rest who are fortunate to grow up knew only loneliness, loss, fear, violence and mistrust. They most likely develop emotional and psychological problems. They bond together to help each other as part of their solution. Even though AIDS orphans show the same type of sadness and loss as any orphan, they develop less violent characteristics due to the support they receive from society and humanitarian organizations. They are wiling and accepting whenever any kind of help is available or offered to them.

Orphan

In its literal meaning being an orphan is a very sad thing. Orphan as we know it is when a child lost both parents because of natural or accidental death. The child is left with no one to take care of him or her.

Friday, April 16, 2010

Victim

Innocent as a Victim
Today, I have a few hours to spend in front of a television set. I randomly switch channels through the cable news while I was watching several cable personalities; I realized some of their behaviors. They talk over each other, they shout to drown one another. It did not make any sense to me. First, it looks like it is a competition between who the loud talker is. Second, they speak with no responsibility of facts or what they say do not have any informational value to listeners. However, the more they shout with no foundation the more they attract viewers to watch their show bringing more money to their owners.
I asked myself why these types of shows are successful. The correct answer might be lack of critical thinking. On the other hand, there is a possibility that at any given time, it is possible substantial number of people that did not get out of the innocent developmental stage. On the other hand, they enjoy negative outcomes because of loss of faith and hopelessness. The solution for most people who are lost and stay lost in the innocent developmental stage is to find groups or people with similar interest. The interest is usually surrounded by emotional and destructive behavior. There is no surprise why these kinds of shows are successful.

Losing Faith


Losing faith is not very easy for a person. Such loss includes losing friends, loved ones or anything that was parts a person’s life. Hopelessness, guilt, emotional instability and discomfort are some of the symptoms that may occur in a person when she/he is lost. It is natural on the other hand the person may try either hide his/her problem or deny that the loss exists at all.
I was with a group of people the other day and noticed a long silence with one of my friends regarding discussion on what we did over the weekend. I asked myself that, could this be related to one of the archetypes? Perhaps it is the Innocent archetype. I could be wrong or it is possible that his silence could be tied to one of the archetypes. I continued to think that it could be one of the above reasons that may have happened to him. A fight within his family member may have resulted in sadness, or worry affecting his personality. I wanted to ask him if there was anything wrong. I would like to know exactly what changed his mood. However, I decided that it would be too selfish of me probing into his personal business. I know he would have talked about it if he wanted to discuss it.